Sexuality and the expression of queer living is once again under scrutiny, and part of America’s political dialogue twenty four hours a day. The right to gender affirming healthcare is the hottest talking point, and opinions run to heavy extremes in both directions.
There is a mental and spiritual toll that this takes on those who were born queer, bi, transgender or of gender neutrality. There is an underlying anxiety that remains day in and day out when your existence is up for negotiation. It is something that many have a hard time expressing, so it arrives in less complex exhibits of emotions: anger, depression, or a slight withdrawal from life altogether.
The family of the LGBTQ+ also finds themselves trudging through murky waters these days as well. A tug-o-war between their love and society’s own moral deliberations. Many pulled in one direction by religious ideals being preached about the matter, and their heart taking them in another.
Very few imagined we would be here, after what seemed like decades of moving forward.
Uncertainty has become a staple emotional center point for millions of queer individuals and their families. What is keeping us here is not just the cruel words spoken by other people. It is also the silence between one another, and the avoidance of these feelings brewing within ourselves.
The conversations need to begin.
“How does it feel to see a law labeled “Don’t Say Gay” be passed?”
“My co-worker went on a rant about how disgusted he is by all this transgender “stuff” being shoved in his face, and I have a transgender daughter at home”
“My church has made it clear that homosexuality is an abomination. I love my faith, and I love my gay son”.
It’s not being said. It’s being held tight within us. It’s time we find the courage and strength to open up the dialogue- and see one another. We don’t need to do it perfectly. Yes, some feelings are going to get hurt, and some preconceived notions will be challenged. It is not the radicalism of certain groups that has the power to break us- it is our hesitancy to speak honestly to one another that is the biggest threat to our understanding.
Today, we encourage you to do it. Pick up the phone. Knock on the bedroom door, schedule a session with a therapist. Find a way to start. This is how allies, become true allies.